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I have a few grudges that I hold close to my heart. Most of this started after the loss of my Grandparents and then the departure of my Great Aunt being forced back to Croatia. Without stringing out my dirty laundry further, I have held these grudges towards certain family members.

Again after hearing anther Michael Josephson commentary, I had some thing click. I understood where I’m at and what must be done. At the end I’ll explain in small detail how this commentary has helped me.

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Let Go of Your Grudges by Michael Josephson

As we approach the new year, it’s a good time to clean out the clutter in our lives. Sure, that means disposing of useless papers and unused stuff, but it also means throwing away old grudges.

The prevalence and durability of grudges proves Maya Angelou’s observation that people don’t always remember what you said or did, but they do remember how you made them feel.

Grudges are nothing more than toxic memories of how someone made us feel.

But Confucius taught that “To be wronged is nothing unless we continue to remember it.” So why do so many of us choose to consciously preserve and revisit toxic feelings that detract from our happiness?

Perhaps we fool ourselves into thinking we can inflict some sort of pain on the person who wronged us. In fact, holding on to a grudge is like holding onto a hot stone. It doesn’t hurt the stone or the person who gave it to us; it only hurts the one holding the stone. Carrying a grudge is like being stung to death by one bee.

And it really doesn’t matter how justified the bitter feelings are or how right we are. Holding on to a grievance turns pain into suffering. In a peculiar way it empowers the wrongdoer to hurt us again and again.

So start out this new year by giving yourself a great gift. Muster the good sense and strength to root out and release deep-seated and long-held resentments.

If you can, forgive and forget. But all that’s really necessary is a firm decision to let go of your grudges so you can move forward and free yourself of the chains of resentment.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

Reference to this commentary could be found here

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What Mike Josephson says  is totally right and is the right thing to do with my grudges.  I have found myself holding back from moving forward because I have held on to these grudges.

I have seen that holding on to these grudges have turned me into a toxic person. I lost my positive energy I once felt. I have really taken this commentary to heart.  As I’ve mentioned it was clear what I must do as I know I’m a good person. I know what needs to be done so I could forget and forgive. For me, I didn’t want to forget or forgive as it felt like I would then have to forget or accept the loss of my Grandparents.

My Grandparents are in my heart and I am who I am today because of them. This alone should allow me to be a stronger man to forget and forgive those certain family members. I do not want to be an angry, emotional person cause I’m holding on to these grudges. I need to let this energy go and be true to the person who I am!

Thank you for taking the time to read this entry. If you find yourself in a similar situation, please let me know.

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